irv + eun

we went to irv & eun's little wedding celebration on saturday at handlebar. the party was quintessentially irv & eun (complete with the sparklers and handsewn streamers), and man, that margarita blender was a riot. seriously i mean how often do you have a motorcycle engine blend your frozen magarita for you??? *heh*

then they also gave out postcards with a picture of them in ikea *hahaha* and this adorable poem on it. and above is a picture of the ridiculously fun event they orchestrated a couple of yrs back, which i like to think was a key turning pt in them getting together.

anyhows here's the poem. its really sweet. and thanks for a fabulous evening guys!

i like you and i know why.

i like you because you are a good person to like.

i like you because becaue when i tell you something special,

you know it's special and you remember it a long, long time.

you know how to be silly, that's why i like you

boy are you ever silly

i never met anybody sillier than me till i met you

i like you because you know when it's time to stop being silly

maybe day after tomorrow, maybe never -

too late! it's a quarter past silly

if you find two fourleaf clovers, you give me one

if i find four, i give you two

if we only find three, we keep on looking

sometimes we have good luck, and sometimes we don't

i like you because i don't know why,

but everything that happens is nicer with you

i can't remember when i didn't like you

it must have been lonesome then

i like you because because

i forget why i like you but i do, so many reasons

you really like me, don't you

and i really like you back

and you like me back and i like you back

and that's the way we keep on going everyday

i would go on choosing you

and you would go on choosing me

over and over again

What's next? Same-sex marriages?

Dear Mr Chan,

Obviously, you don't have any gay friends. No wonder you're so unhappy.

Maybe you ought to join Republican VP nominee Palin and migrate to Alaska.

I hear she suits your type, very anti-everything - abortion, gay marriages, conservation, big oil, etc. She also thinks global warming is not caused by human beings. So I think, all in all, there ought to be fewer gay people there.

Also, I hear you can get good crabs too. Seasonal though. Although, people die catching those crabs for dinner.

So, good luck hor?

___________________________________

TODAY, 9 Sep 2008, Voices, Letter by Anton Chan

MR HO Kwon Ping is wrong to propose the acceptance of gays into Singapore society because accepting a gay lifestyle would have a tremendous impact on society as a whole in terms of religious beliefs, social well-being and families.

As a Christian, I oppose legalising a gay lifestyle in Singapore because it’s against my beliefs. As a father of three teenagers, I care because I don’t want my children to be affected by such a lifestyle.

Imagine if we allow the acceptance of such a lifestyle in Singapore. What next? Legalise same sex marriages? Legalise adoption of children for gays?

Where are we as a socially-conservative society heading towards?

Soon gays will claim the right for social acceptance in all areas including education, welfare et cetera. What effect will this have on the next generation of children and parents who wish that their children will grow up normally and produce children in the normal course of their being?

The only strong contention in Mr Ho’s proposal is the so-called gay leading edge in the “creative class”. Doesn’t our society have many other people to develop and nurture? Why are we so eager to promote creative class talent in Singapore? So that we can become a more tolerant society to accept whatever lifestyle these bring? Definitely no.

I would like to borrow a similar argument by Attorney-General Walter Woon regarding the Human Organ Transplant Act (Hota). In “None above the law” (Sept 8), he said: “If Dr Lee (Wei Ling) disagrees with Hota, she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended ... But until Parliament amends or repeals the Hota and the Oaths and Declarations Act, they remain the law of Singapore.”

If anyone disagrees with the law for gays as enacted by Parliament, he/she is at perfect liberty to campaign to have it amended ... But until Parliament amends or repeals the law of Singapore for gays, it remains the law of Singapore.

auntie in the gym

was in the gym earlier and got into an argument with an auntie in the locker room. it reminded me of a typical gen x-gen y type work conflict.

i was done with my workout, was in the locker room, about to open my locker. an auntie like woman was standing close to my locker, changing into her clothes. i apologied first, and signalled that i wanted to open my locker door. she budged a little, just enough for me to open the door fully. unfortunately, somewhere between her wrestling with her clothes, she accidentally hit her head agst the door and "tsk-ed" at me. i ignored her, partly because i had already apologized earlier for inconveniencing her, and also because i didn't feel responsible for her inability to work within a tight space. (*haha* i am quite "qia" that way, i know)

that was when an argument ensued, something to this effect:-

auntie at the gym :
(glares at me) wah lao! close your locker door for goodness sakes!

me:
well, you could have moved in a little bit and you'd have enough space.

auntie at the gym:
least you could do is apologise!

me:
i did. i said sorry before i opened my locker.

auntie at the gym:
i didn't hear you. (grumbles under her breath)

auntie, if you're in the wrong, just admit it lah. older people are capable of apologising to younger people, you know.

mommy, mommy, is this all mine?

if everyday was like this, i wish i was her age again.

dusting out the cobwebs

met a new colleague today, who turned out to be a blast from my 16-17 yr old past. a past i'd rather not remember really. it felt like being forced to drag out the cobwebs from that part of the attic you've been ignoring for ages, and bring confronted with dusting it out for good.

actually, i don't remember him at all. (quite frankly, i don't expect anyone from my past to recognise me) he approached me first, asked if i was from this particular jc in this particular year. i said yes, and we quickly struck up a conversation.

but no thanks to my lack of thought and big big mouth, i think some affinity got destroyed. no, i didn't reduce the man's sense of dress or style (which i thot was fine btw). my downfall came when he asked if i hung out with a particular group of girls then. i said well not really, because the group politics got quite unpleasant, and i indicated i didn't like them one bit. too complicated, i said. it brought to mind a past of painful rejection, a past which i'd rather forget.

i now regret my hasty statement - i think i spoke too quickly. i didn't consider that maybe the man might be a friend (or i'm guessing at least aquaintance) of theirs. worse, maybe one of their boyfriends/husbands. *GULP*

oh well, what's done's is done yah??? me and my big and careless mouth. again.

peer pressure made up the absolute worst parts of my otherwise enjoyable jc life. actually, make that most of my primary and secondary school life. the notion that i was never good enough to be part of groups whose company i thot i'd enjoy, crept up insiduously and ate me up bit by bit.

this group of jc girls, especially, brought my feelings of being left out to a new peak. i used to watch a girl friend of mine pander excessively to them, coz she wanted their acceptance so badly. even then, she wasn't exactly included, if you ask me. i remembered resenting her for it. she's smart, talented, articulate in her own right. why stoop so low, i thought to myself, for so little returns.

but all that's in the past now, water under the bridge. its been more than 10 yrs since, and i've finally come to love and accept me for who i am, and just be secure in that. its a relief, yet i wished it didn't take me half as long to get here. but like it or not, that's my journey, and its made me who i am today. actually, not bad, i'd say. not bad at all. =)

salt - lizz wright

took time this weekend to check out some of malcolm's music recommendations. the man practically lives in gramaphone. *heh* anyhows, found this awesome singer, lizz wright, with a fantastic sound - jazzy but chill, with a whole lot of soul.

salt's her debut album, also one of the songs in it. if you ask me, i think its the best song in the album. very inspirational lyrics set to a soulful r&b tune.

how can you lose your song?

when you have sung it for so long?

how can you forget your dance, your dance

when that dance is all you ever had?

it must be, it must be true

you can’t separate the two

oh no, you can’t

it’s impossible to do

just like the salt in the stew

oh my, it’s all

a part of you

one thing that life cannot do

life can’t do it no

it can’t take your song from you

Forced approach

some nitwit of an uncle wrote to st forum with this:

'Introduce legislation requiring singles to participate in at least one fully-subsidised SDU activity.'

MR LIM KENG HIAN: 'We should not overlook another related issue of too many men and women staying unmarried. The number is sizeable and is worth paying more attention to for a more comprehensive solution to boost the birth rates. The Social Development Unit (SDU) can do its part by not just waiting for these singles to register with them; they should be proactive and reach out to them. One way is to ask companies to nominate unmarried singles for their various activities, fully subsidised by the Government. If this does not work, the next step could be the mandatory approach. The SDU could compile a database of unmarried men and women above the age of 26 or older and introduce legislation requiring these singles to participate in at least one fully-subsidised SDU activity.'

i say again - NITWIT.